Eight is enough.

On one hand, I’m appalled that 70 percent of African Americans in California (according to exit polls) voted to ban marriages between gays and lesbians! That is absolutely ridiculous—not to mention hypocritical. What is wrong with these people? Are there problems with short-term memory, perhaps? On the other hand, I am getting so very tired of rich, white people blaming black people for their own misfortunes. We’re responsible for the economic crisis, the mortgage crisis, and now we’re responsible for stripping gays and lesbians of their rights too? And we’re only 12 percent of the population—even less in California? Sigh. Fine. Just throw it on top of the pile.

However, I look back at the other hand. 70 percent? Really? Someone needs to explain this. I don’t want to explain it. When I explain it? I sound very much like a church basher. I don’t want to sound like that. Those churches are what sustained my family members when the world was against them. Those churches gave my family members the power to cope and the power to fight for their own freedom. And though I don’t attend those churches as an adult, I wouldn’t be here without them. And I’ll be damned if I let someone try to destroy them.

Sigh. I’m straight. What do I know? I only have half of the picture. Perhaps the best way to heal this rift would be for straight black individuals and white gay individuals to simply shut up for a while and actually listen to black gays and lesbians. How are they hurting? How can we make them feel welcome? How can we make them feel more like what they are, which is a part of the family, and what they should be, which is a vocal and respected part of the family?

By voting Obama into office, I feel like I’ve dragged a rickety and unbearably heavy cart of supplies up a steep and icy mountain. And now I’m at the top. And I’m looking at these supplies. And I don’t have the foggiest notion of what to do with them. I shouldn’t have even bothered with this post. I should have simply sent you here. And here. And here. Go read the words of several ladies who are awesome and awesomely informed.